What to register for with your baby registry, and what not to waste time on.

There are a few things that every mom is excited for before the birth of her baby.

Few things are more exciting than picking out colors and a theme for the baby’s nursery. I love the modern look of just a simple color scheme of gold and pink for a little girl, or blue and lime green for a little boy. There’s also the little woodsmen theme with moose and bear silhouettes and a TON of red and black plaid. I’ve seen some precious painted murals of fairy trees, or mermaid treasure coves for little girls.

Then there’s picking out a name. What if it’s a girl? or a boy? Will he be a junior, or the third? Will she have your grandmother’s name? Should the baby have a name that combines both mom and dad’s name? Naming them something that gives homage to the time, place, or significant event surrounding their, ehhrrrrr, conception is fun. You definitely want a strong, remember-able name; something that won’t get them picked on their entire life. And take it from someone who never found their name on anything at a theme park, different can be a good AND bad thing.

Lastly, there’s the baby shower. The last celebration for the mother before everything thereafter becomes about the baby. Let’s face it, once the baby arrives, the mom is chopped liver. Ok, ok, maybe that’s a little melodramatic, but really, it’s all about the baby. Hopefully, your friend or family member does an awesome job of coming up with the decor, menu, and games. But the whole purpose behind a baby shower is for the mother to get showered with gifts for the baby to relieve some of the expensive burden of bringing and maintaining another life into this world.

After having three beautiful babies, and baby showers, I’ve become somewhat of a self proclaimed expert on the subject. There’s a few things that people will know that you need. Diapers, wipes, and clothes. Most people will buy diapers and clothes in various styles and sizes, so don’t waste your time registering for those. If you receive too much or not enough of a certain size or style of diaper, or if you simply don’t like the brand, you can always exchange them. The same goes for clothes. If you receive multiple of a certain outfit, just exchange them later. The following is a list of things that I definitely think are worth registering for so that your friends and family know exactly what to spend their money on.

  1. Bottles- I used Avent bottles for my girls. I breast fed, and the nipple on the Avent bottles was closer to the natural shape and size of the breast and caused less nipple confusion for my girls. The bottle shape itself is very ergonomical and fits the hand well. I loved the wide mouth on the bottles, it really made pouring breast milk, and water and formula in the bottle with one hand while bouncing a baby on your hip, a lot easier. It also had a vent built into the nipple which kept me from having to remove the bottle from the baby’s mouth to vent during the most inopportune times. A lot of my mom friends liked the Dr. Brown’s bottles because of the vent as well.
  2. Bottle warmer- I never had a bottle warmer, but I really, REALLY, wish I had. It would have made things so much easier during those mid-night and early morning feedings. Some warmers that I’ve seen great reviews on are Dr. Brown’s Deluxe Bottle Warmer , Kiinde Kozii Bottle Warmer and Breast Milk Warmer, and Tommee Tippee Travel Bottle and Food Warmer.
  3. Wipe Warmer- I highly recommend registering for a wipe warmer, and if you dont get one at your shower, BUY one yourself. Spend the money. Just do it. I mean, imagine being half asleep and waking to go pee. You relieve yourself, reach over and get tissue to wipe yourself, and it’s cold and wet. You would instantly be fully awake and probably a little cranky, right? Same goes for your little cherub. Now, if you reached over and had a warm, comforting wipe to wipe your tooshie with you would feel much better, right? They do too. Sometimes you can even get away with an entire diaper change without disturbing your sleeping beauty too much.
  4. Boppy– This pillow will be your savior. It’s super helpful in holding the baby’s weight while you bottle or breast feed your baby. If you happen to have a c-section (bless your heart), you really need one of these. It relieves pressure off of your stomach while holding your baby. It can also be used later to elevate the baby in a semi-sitting position. They come in many different covers so that you can keep them switched out and washed.
  5. Target Baby Registry

  6. Car seat and stroller combo- This is something great to put on your registry because many times, co-workers or ladies at the church may want to go in together to get you a big gift. There’s soooo many to choose from. They come in many styles and colors, so registering for the set that you like will take a lot of the guess work out for your guests. Make sure to check the reviews and make sure there aren’t any recalls on the set you pick out. A set that transitions as the child grows is ideal. The best places to go to register for this big ticket item is Amazon, Wal-Mart, Babies-R-Us, or Target.
  7. Formula dispenser- These are life savers for when you are traveling with your baby. Avent, Munchkin , and Nuby are some of my favorites.
  8. Diaper bag-You need to register for a diaper bag that comes with a large bag, and a smaller travel bag. The travel bag will come in handy for the average run to the grocery store, the park, or Target. The large diaper bag is for daycare or longer trips where you will need several changes of clothes, and extra diapers, wipes, and formula. Make sure the bag is easily cleanable. Cotton bags are much harder to wipe down.

Now, there’s a few things not to waste your time on. This is either because people are going to buy them for you anyway or because they’re worthless.

  1. Diapers- Like I said above, people are going to buy you the brand and size that they want to. Most places like Wal-Mart and Target realize this and allow for exchanges. My two favorite brands are HUGGIES and Pampers . I know they’re a little more expensive, but they really do hold up better. I wish that the Honest Brand diapers would have been around when I had my kids. If anyone has any feedback for me, please post it here in the comments so that other moms can get a fair idea of that brand. You may also have to try different brands on your baby because, just like with our underwear, different styles will fit each child differently, regardless of what the diaper companies may tell you.
  2. Pacifiers- Love them or hate them, no baby shower would be complete without about a dozen of these. Just save your time and don’t register for them. If you receive some, just return or exchange them.
  3. Burping diapers- This is another thing that people are probably going to get you regardless of what you want. They come in different sizes and patterns but I recommend the cheap, white burping clothes. The clothes are going to be puked on over, and over, and over again. Save your sanity and buy the white ones that you can just throw in the washing machine and bleach the heck out of.
  4. Blankets- You will probably get a couple dozen blankets and receiving cloths. Living in south Georgia, I rarely had a need for thick blankets. The receiving blankets however, they went everywhere with us, and in multiples. They are great for throwing down when you need to change your baby, blocking a spring breeze from the baby’s stroller or car seat, a make shift burp cloth, and a cover up for when you’re breast feeding. This is something that people will buy you because they’re cheap and cute.
  5. Toys- Unless there is something that you just really, really have your heart set on for your little one, chances are you’re going to get enough stuffed toys, rattles, and chew toys to last the baby until it’s fifth birthday.

I could really go on and on with this list….it brings back such fond memories. But, I guess it’s your turn now. If you are a veteran parent like me, what are some things that you recommend picking or leaving out of your list? Or, if this is your first rodeo, what are somethings that you really have your heart set on and why? Comment below!


Until next time, xoxoxo




Raising the Strong-Willed Child

imageI became really spoiled after I had my first child. She was a very mild mannered, laid back, self soothing, smiling, loving baby. Everyone told me how lucky I was because she rarely cried, she was on a good sleeping schedule very early on, and as she grew she was easy to handle and well-mannered. Fast forward 5 years, and it was time for baby #2.

Almost immediately I could see the difference between my two girls. My new born was the complete opposite of her sister. She was very demanding, cried a lot, and wanted to be held all the time. Often times I would have to wear a Baby Bjourn with her in it to even wash dishes or sweep. Talk about stressing a mom out! When she turned about six months old, her impatience began. She wanted what she wanted, how she wanted, when she wanted or there was going to be trouble. Now, I’m a loving, stern, “because I said so” mom. We had a huge problem!

I loved my child, but I didn’t like her. GULP….that was hard to admit. I mean what kind of mom can say that?! I would literally sit on the porch stairs and cry almost every day and think “Lord, I can’t do this!” Luckily, one day while at the pediatrician’s office, I saw an article in a half ripped magazine that read “Conflicting Personalities in parents and their children.” I was intrigued. It covered intellectual parents vs. sporty child, neat parents vs. messy kid, laid back parent vs. strong willed child, among others.I quickly realized that my child was strong willed.

Strong willed children are often described as impatient, bossy, argumentative, manipulative, fussy, and difficult. I found many of these things to be true with my daughter. She had mood swings of anger and frustration and had a hard time expressing her anger in an appropriate way. She was always very particular about how things were going. She doesn’t like to wait for anything. She always wants to be right, and more importantly to prove me wrong. No amount of discipline would work. If I fussed, she shut down. If I begged, she shut down.  I could promise her the sun and the moon, but if I was going against her I was wasting my breath.Finally, after some research, I figured out a few things.

Strong-willed children need to feel like they’re understood and that their opinion matters. Sometimes all it takes for my child to snap out of her “mood” is for me to allow her to vent to me and explain why she’s feeling this way. I may not agree with how she’s acting, but usually I can understand and relate to her feelings. Verbalize to your child that you do understand! After that, suggest ways they may fix the situation, or offer another option that your child can agree with.

Getting cooperation with your child usually requires giving them choices, but only offer them choices that still end in the desired result. For instance, I have  a list of certain things that must be done every night before my daughter can go to bed. It’s up to her in what order she does them and how long it takes her do them. She is in control of her time. If she takes too long, her TV or free time decreases.

Make sure they know what to expect. From my experience, my child does so much better when she knows ahead of time if something is changing. For example, if every Tuesday night the family goes to the grandparents’ to eat dinner, but this Tuesday night you have a business meeting to attend, let your child know ahead of time and explain why you’re not going to Grandma’s and that the family will go the next Tuesday. Generally, my daughter will be much more level headed and calm because she was included in the plan making. Crisis averted.

Stand your ground. It can be really easy to give in and let your child have their way because you’re tired of hearing the fussing, but if it’s an issue that you feel matters don’t back down! You certainly want your child to feel that they’re a vital part of your family and can have their own opinion. They need to realize tho that you are the commander and chief and have their best interest at heart. With that being said….

Realize that everything isn’t life or death. If your child wants to wear her fuzzy pink sweater with her green and purple polka dotted shorts and black and white Mary Jane’s….who cares. She needs to figure out her own style! Anyone that has kids can relate! If she refuses to eat her dinner, explain to her that she will be hungry if she doesn’t eat and if she still refuses to eat, let her go to bed. She will soon realize, and hopefully learn, that she doesn’t like being hungry and will eat her dinner from now on.

Happily, my daughter and I now get along amazingly (most of the time). And it’s wonderful! I see her being a leader and doing great things one day! Smart, determined, organized, outspoken, and self-assured….sounds like a natural born world changer to me!

Whew!! That was alot guys! If you’ve made it through this L O N G post, thank you!! This post is really close to my heart and I hope it helps someone.

If you have any similar stories, or suggestions, or questions, please drop me a comment!

Love to you all! XOXO


5 Tips to prepare for a c-section

image.pngIf you’ve ever thought about being pregnant, or envisioned the birth of your children, chances are you think of a grueling, sweaty labor while your significant other rubs your back, wipes your forehead, and feeds you ice chips. Next, you push, and breath, and push some more. And TA-DA!! They lay a beautiful, screaming baby on your chest while you and your partner kiss and stare lovingly at the child. Two days later, you’re on your feet and the happy little family is off to live happily ever after.

Reality check pumpkin…life ain’t a fairy tale! Sometimes things out of our control happen and for whatever reason, the decision is made to have a cesarean section. Sometimes it’s planned, sometimes it’s an emergency. Either way, it happens, and there you are undergoing a major surgery  (as if child birth isn’t stressful enough) with a several weeks recovery time, and a new born to take care of to boot.

I’ve been there, done that…three times. Never fear! There are some things you can do to prepare for child birth that will make the coming home a little easier on you whether you have a natural birth or c-section.

1. Make sure to clean ahead of time. If somehow you’ve managed to skip the infamous “nesting period”, suck it up and force yourself to clean really well. It will go a long way toward making you feel better when you return home and you don’t have to worry about cleaning.

2. Make sure the clothes, towels,and linens are clean and prepared ahead of time. Hang outfits together on a hanger or lay them out so that you nor your family has to worry about finding clothes.

3. Meal prep! One of the biggest things I could have ever done to help myself was to make meals ahead of time. I used the foil pans from the dollar store, or heavy duty Freezer Bags. Either could be used for freezing things like chili, soup, chicken and dumplings, chicken pot pie, breakfast casseroles, pot roast, spaghetti or lasagna, or really anything that you can make and freeze and someone else can thaw and re-heat
4. Pay bills ahead of time. Pay whatever you can, and schedule the rest. It really will require some careful planning and foresight, but it’s so worth it not to have to worry about bills in the first couple of weeks home. Along with this, I would add to try to keep in mind any special events, birthdays, or anniversaries. Try to plan ahead of time and buy and give your gifts before the delivery.

5. Communicate. Send out a card, email, tweet, post, snapchat, or any other form of communication you desire just to let everyone know that, while you love them all, and are eager to share your miracle with them, you would appreciate the first two weeks to be as peaceful as possible to allow you, your partner, and the baby to bond and heal. This also will help keep well meaning people from coming around your new born with all of their dangerous germs until the baby has had a chance to develop some immunities.

In all, just remember that child birth is a beautiful and miraculous thing, regardless of how it occurs. In this modern society women often put unrealistic expectations on themselves to bounce right back. But if you’re not careful, you could really injure yourself and extend the healing process by weeks or months, which just simply isn’t worth it. Above all, enjoy your baby, relax as much as possible, and welcome any help that is offered. You can resume being Wonder Woman soon enough!

Love to you all! XOXO